The Day I Realized I was Living Somebody Else’s Dream

The day I realized I was living somebody else’s dream, I made a conscious decision to take my life in a new direction and pursue that which truly made me happy: fashion. I set out to do whatever it took to reach my goal. I quit my day job and went back to school in my late thirties.

I know you’re thinking, girl are you crazy? You may call this a midlife crisis, but suddenly it became clear. I knew exactly what I had to do.

As Steve Jobs once said:

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”

This meant leaving the old Diana behind by parting with my fears and self-doubt as well as my previous career. By this point it had been a few years since I had been toying with the idea of going back to school, except this time it meant a career change to something I loved and had passion for. I needed to follow my dream.

It’s funny how sometimes we call quotes cliché, yet they can be so powerful that they can inspire something in you that can change the course of your life.

“The secret of happiness lies in a search for what proves to be an unknown destination.”


Although at the time I put myself in a place of vulnerability…I’m sure you can relate. It gave me confidence to keep going further.

Facing my fears, I enrolled as a full-time student at Centenary University. On my first day, as tears streamed down my face, I felt an immense gratitude for the opportunity life had finally presented me with. It literally breathed new life into me.

Although the experience has been rewarding, there were moments in which I was overwhelmed and afraid. Insecurities rushed through my mind:

  • Was I going to be a good designer?
  • Would I be able to make a career out of this?
  • Was I being selfish for pursuing my dreams when I had to support my son?
  • Was I being a bad mother for now devoting my time to a new career?
  • What if this was all a waste of time?

Have you ever felt this way before? I’m here to tell you that you owe it to yourself to shut out the fear.

Don’t succumb to your thoughts. The human in you will always try to make you think otherwise.

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”


Us women are constantly faced with heavier pressures than men. This is not to say that there aren’t good men out there. However, as women we have more roles, societal pressures, and the constriction of time when it comes to things like motherhood. I want you to know that no matter where you are in life and how you start, all that matters is that you try.

Ladies, are you living the lives you’ve always dreamed of? If you answered no I want you to ask yourself, what’s stopping you?

Do something for you today. Follow your dream.

Love endlessly,

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